Each time a painful emotion is felt, it provides an opportunity. Pain gives us the gift of growth in a hidden package. Something is shouting out for a change. If we pause and open this gift, a great secret of freedom and love can be revealed. Sometimes when the pain is large enough, we have no choice but to look at it anyway. My largest pains have helped to open the greatest growths in my life. Hey it's worth a shot, right?
Finding a healthy way to vent can even help to relieve anxiety, something more and more of us are suffering from in these times. Those who don't find a healthy way of venting often stuff it inside until they explode on day or get into the habit of finding way to numb themselves, such as eating. Venting can help to truly relieve stress, which is known to cause many ailments and "dis-eases" in our bodies.
Before true clarity can be reached on why something is happening, it is best to free up the strong energy that arises from the frustration of situation. Once that energy has been expressed, you can rest in the stillness, while still connected to the power of emotion, to reach the greatest levels of clarity possible. It is here where our insight is at a natural high. With the power of the openness we have after pain, our greatest growth can happen. We can release the ties to these situations and grow beyond them.
Here are some ways to vent out the frustrations, sadness, and anger that arise as a normal part of growing and a healthy life:
1. Cry. When you feel deeply sad, crying works beautifully. Often when we cry, we want a shoulder to cry on. If none is available, cry to yourself and receive it with love. Either way, allowing yourself the space to cry can work wonders on freeing up the stored up energy inside that is too much to contain within. While crying connect with the pain you fell and cry into it.
2. Punch. If you feel angry, you may feel the desire to hit something. A very healthy way of exerting this powerful energy is to punch a pillow. Hit the pillow like it's the person/thing you are angry at. Yell at it as well if that helps to release that tension. As you hit, smash into that frustration and feel exactly what aspects of it are making you angry.
3. Write. Writing can help to clear the overwhelm of information in your head. It allows a pouring out of what is going on inside. Once you've written all you can, some thing will still stand out or certain feelings may still be felt strongly. These are the largest lessons in the situation. Writing provides a great clarity that other ways may not give. You can easily reflect on what you were feeling in the situation once the emotion has passed in a effort to keep the lesson fresh in your mind and heart. Some people enjoy tearing up the pages after they've written as a way to exert their frustration. I suggest capturing the emotions and negative energy into writings in a blog organizer to maybe use for future research and postings on helping others with the same frustrations.
4. Exercise. Some of your most frustrating days in your life may turn out to be the best day in the gym. I for one can not say that I have experienced this, as I do not like exercise at all. My husband has experienced this though. There are times when he has had an extremely bad day at work, so he will hit the gym on his lunch or way home. I'm so thankful that he does this cause he gets it all out and leaves it in the sweat he washes down the drain. Many people find their way into their deepest connections through opening the door to regular exercise. Exerting energy in this way, with a regular commitment to their health, opens them like nothing else.
5.Talk. We all need someone that we can vent to. Often times we need a spouse, a friend, co-worker, or even a parent that will just listen. We don't need someone to give us advice we just need to bend an ear for a little bit and move on. Often times, we can learn so much just by hearing ourselves speak and we don't need much feedback at all. If you have a trusted confident that makes it even better.
6. Create Art. What better to do than to channel this energy into creating something beautiful? Some people create paintings, sculptures, and crafts from frustrations over different situations in their lives. During these times it can be the most productive use of energy you have had.
Though these tips may not be for everyone, you may find that one or more may help you to deal with your frustrations. But remember that when we have released our frustrations, we have to learn to move on and not dwell on the situation.
So how do you vent? Please share. You may help someone else who will connect with what you do....
With Love,
"B"
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